Pleased to Death

Another one on the subject of communication and quick tips.

There are a HUGE number of pleasers in the land of Adult Second Life. You may well be one of them, God love ya. For every one avatar-handler you meet who knows exactly what he/she/it likes and how he/she/it likes it there are at least 3-5 pleasers who just want to do whatever it is their prospective partner wants to do. This is all well and good until a pleaser meets a pleaser.

You should have at least one fantasy/favorite/sim/something in your mental back pocket, or on a notecard if necessary, in order to avoid the dangerous infinity loop that is a pleaser trying to qualify another pleaser in the probing stage of the cybersex cycle.

Pleaser 1: What do you want to do?
Pleaser 2: Whatever you want to do.
Pleaser 1: I want to do whatever you want to do.
Pleaser 2: I like whatever you like as long as it makes you happy.

And so on and so forth forever and ever or until the pleasers die in the Neva Naughty sim, literally never having been naughty. One of you is going to have break the infinity loop by either cutting bait or providing an activity. This is where the ace in the mental back pocket comes into play.

Even if you are open/confused/lacking imagination or the necessary energy/a total blank slate, you can co-opt someone else's fantasy and trot it out for an occasion such as this. Did you please someone last week by roleplaying a naughty nurse fantasy? Did you observe someone re-enacting a Jabba the Hut and slave Princess Leia moment? Fantastic. Offer it up. Or move on to the avatar with "Master/Mistress of My Every Command" in his/her/its title, because I'm pretty sure he/she/it will have some ideas on what you can do.

Repost. LeeHere Absent, Feb 16, 2011   http://gotvirtual.net/community/threads/thats-what-she-said.772/page-4#post-24301