Sexy?

And another question...

Have you ever found someone sexy that you really normally would not have found sexy? Like the guy who repulses you who suddenly turns you on or the member of the sex opposite to the one you are usually attracted to is somehow very appealing or someone does something wonderful or interesting and for just that moment that person is turning you on?


I'll give some examples.


Niles Krane from the TV show "Frasier."



So not my type. And not at all appealing in a sexual way, though I did enjoy the character. I think I'd break the little guy if I was ever actually in a physical situation with him, but there was one episode where he got all fired up and took charge of Daphne in a very confident way and for a second there, I dug him. 

k.d. Lang.

I'm straight, but there is a kind of swaggering insouciance and intelligence there that I find appealing.

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Balanced Account

I think relationships are like accounts. There have to be both debits and credits and the accounts must be kept balanced. If you pay out all the time, you will eventually go bankrupt. It is your responsibility to balance the accounts. Sometimes you have to ask for a pay in and sometimes you have to be flexible about, and open to, how payment is received. It's no good holding the accounts and refusing deposits.


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The Woman Prefers Men

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Semi-Happy?

Are you semihappy or a workhorse wife? Five different kinds of modern marriage
From 'Avatar Affairs' to 'Ed McMahon Syndrome', author Pamela Haag reveals the unromantic reality behind so-called wedded bliss...
By TAMARA ABRAHAM I 6:15 PM on 6th June 2011 I dailymail.co.uk

Tamara Abraham said:

In Marriage Confidential: The Post-Romantic Age of Workhorse Wives, Royal Children, Undersexed Spouses and Rebel Couples Who Are Rewriting The Rules, author Pamela Haag outlines five different kinds of modern marriage, revealing how it is often security and children that keep a couple together, rather than love.

A large part of the book is dedicated to what she calls a semihappy marriage. She explained: 'A semihappy marriage lives in a shade of grey. It's not miserable at all, nor is it all that successful.

Ms Haag, a mother-of-one, explained that while children are often the one remaining reason for couples to marry and stay together, being a parent can overwhelm a marriage because children are so much more socially included these days. She writes: 'Parenthood is swallowing marriage... Children are at the center of a family now.

Ms Haag, a historian, based her research on a study of almost 2,000 people and even openly created online dating identities and personal ads with her husband for the book.

Her survey revealed startling findings. It showed that one third of married people say they wish they'd never married their spouses, and that as many as 65 per cent of wives and more than 85 per cent of husbands would have affairs if they knew they wouldn't be caught.

She told the Huffington Post that due to online dating sites and booming technological advances, trusting your spouse not to cheat has become more difficult.

'When we do get married, social media puts new stresses on monogamy - it’s easy to sign on to an online flirtation on Facebook or through email, and you can even use an online affair-finding site to find people to cheat with,' she said. 'If we do slip into infidelity, we could have what I call an "Avatar affair" where the "lovers" communicate online, but might never meet. It’s all smoke, no mirrors.'

For some couples she says the answer is to become a 'new monogamist' - her term for what is effectively an open marriage, or an 'Oreo Marriage' where the couple looks traditional from the outside yet might enjoy something untraditional, such as swinging, in private.

She told the Huffington Post: 'Many marriages are practising “Free Love Version 2.0,” in which spouses are actually trying to be honest and have decided that their marriage can tolerate some other attachments.'

 

Read more at: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/a...-defines-different-kinds-modern-marriage.html

Related article:

Has equality destroyed your sex life?
A controversial book claims feminism and the rise of ‘new men’ have killed off women's libidos...
LINDA KELSEY I 6th June 2011 I dailymail.co.uk



Read more at: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/a...nism-rise-new-men-killed-womens-libidos-.html

Your Brain on Porn & Sex

Your Brain on Sex

Dopamine loves novelty and the unexpected above all other natural stimuli.

When dopamine drops, you are likely to find your partner less rewarding—and your bond unravels.

You can repeat this process with fresh females until he nearly dies of exhaustion. This is called the Coolidge effect—the automatic response to novel mates. And it’s what started you down the road to getting hooked on Internet porn. (Note: Coolidge effect also occurs in females. Studies show that, when given the opportunity, human females are just as promiscuous as males.)

Your Brain on Porn

Don't Distract Me

My libido and limbic system are delicately wired. I wish it were not so, but there it is. It does not pay to distract me from the task at hand...or mouth.

For 65-plus set and boomers back in dating game, tips for meeting people online

For 65-plus set and boomers back in dating game, tips for meeting people online
Leanne Italie I June 1, 2011 I The Associated Press

...54-year-old Debbie, a former Marine ...

"On other sites, most of the men who would contact me were a lot younger," she said. "I would say why are you writing me, I'm looking for somebody my own age. I made it very clear in my profile. They would say I want the experience of dating an older woman."

"Men are very interested in women being self-sufficient. Women are deathly afraid of becoming nursemaids, but long lists can really hurt. I hate the word settle, but you need to be practical."

Read more at: http://www.google.com/hostednews/ca...qM5iVARAKEufC2DO7d0r-tFDmuP67cw?docId=7010357

If sex and power are what women want, don't stop them

If sex and power are what women want, don't stop them
Laurie Penny I Thursday, 2 June 2011 I www.independent.co.uk

Laurie Penny said:

If it is harmful for an eight year old to engage with a culture that encourages her to look like a porn star, why is it any less harmful at 18 or 28?

There has been much talk of a feminist "renaissance" in Britain and America, but the loudest voices appear to be preoccupied with the wrong questions.

With female workers facing redundancy across the public sector, feminist campaigners seem more concerned with chanting outside the Playboy club, or asking if the "SlutWalk" marches, in which women and girls assert their right to express themselves sexually without fear of rape, "encourage promiscuity". The word "sexualisation" has become a universal shorthand for a kind of abject whorishness, whereby sex is something imposed on women and girls, who can never be sexual, only "sexualised".

Men and boys have no place in this consensus, which seems to deem that adult sexuality is something that men enjoy and women merely endure.

In Tanith Carey's new book, Where Has My Little Girl Gone?, the author encourages parents to protect their daughters for as long as possible from the harmful world of "sexualisation" and raunch culture. This is a stunningly defeatist attitude: after all, if it is harmful for an eight-year-old to engage with a culture that encourages her to starve herself and shames her for not looking like a porn star, why is it any less harmful at 18, or 28?

It is always painful to watch a young woman grow up into what the French feminist Virginie Despentes calls "the universal market of the consumable chick". It is no solution, however, to follow Carey's advice and simply prevent those girls from "growing up too soon". The solution is to fight for a world in which girls can grow up with dignity, and it is that basic vision that the current "sexualisation" debate fails to deliver.

There is not a feminist on the planet who believes that the passive, porny, malnourished stereotype of female submission currently saturating advertising, pornography and pop culture is anything but harmful. But that stereotype has really nothing to do with sex – it is a sterile image of conformity that demands women look sexy while punishing us for actually expressing lust. The stereotype has become so ubiquitous that it has created a false consciousness whereby we assume that this is the only kind of female sexuality that can possibly exist.

It is as if we have lived for so long in a world of McDonald's that we have begun to believe that all food is unhealthy and exploitative. We must begin to remember that there are other meals, and that women's hunger for sex is wholesome and legitimate, just like our hunger for food, power and adventure – while admitting that, from time to time, the guilty pleasure of an occasional Happy Meal does little damage.

What our limited feminist conversation lacks is a coherent politics of female desire.

Some of us might want sex, and lots of it. Some of us might want power, and lots of it. And some of us might want to change the whole world. No wonder the forces of reaction are so keen to stop us growing up.

Read more at: http://www.independent.co.uk/opinio...e-what-women-want-dont-stop-them-2291864.html

All Thumbs

Speaking of thumbs. In real life, gentlemen...manicures. I know, I know. It doesn't have to be some major all-out metrosexual spa day or anything. Scissors and an emery board may well cover it. It's just that those crispy bits around your nails are brutal on soft inner flesh. No unintentional pokes please. Thank you.


Okay, I just saw this...

It's not a sign of being a hipster, or a threat to your sexuality, guys. Just a really easy way to emulate one of the many practices women use to look good... You get the same benefits, you understand what women go through a little better (go ahead, compliment her nails if they look good, it's the little things), and yes, fewer complaints during hand sex... Though I'd still recommend going the glove/lube route myself, for a variety of reasons.

...and while I clearly appreciate the sentiment behind the desire to have a smooth hand on approach...I gotta tellya...many women are gonna be a little creeped out if you come at them with latex gloves.

A Rose By Any Other Name

Probably great products. Recommended by doctors. Might enjoy trying them out. Just... can't... get past... the names.

Emotional Bliss
Femblossom
Womolia



 
http://us.emotionalbliss.com/shopIntro.aspx

I freakin' love that they come with optional car chargers though. lol


http://us.emotionalbliss.com/shop/dept.aspx?id=36&m=Buy now

Although I could see where someone might see the charger and get confused.

Good thing there are videos. Some with...interesting hair.





I'm more used to seeing Alan Titchmarsh in gardens than "bushes."

LeeHere Absent, May 17, 2011

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Ancient Dildos & Art

Édouard-Henri Avril's lithograph from De Figuris Veneris (1906) of two women using a strap-on dildo. De Figuris Veneris, an anthology of ancient Greek and Roman writings on erotic topics, included a list of 95 sexual positions. You can get some interesting returns if you plug "De Figuris Veneris" into a Google Image search. I did not expect to find, however, that De Figuris Veneris has its own Facebook page, though I suppose I should not be surprised.

The dildo believed to be the oldest one known to man is estimated at 28,000 year old. Dildos used to be made of stone, wood and tar.  Now we've got silicone rubber and Cyberskin. We've come a long way, baby.



Interesting soundtrack choice for that video.

I came across that while thinking about Wasted's cockbelts. 


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