Sunday, June 12, 2011

Balanced Account

I think relationships are like accounts. There have to be both debits and credits and the accounts must be kept balanced. If you pay out all the time, you will eventually go bankrupt. It is your responsibility to balance the accounts. Sometimes you have to ask for a pay in and sometimes you have to be flexible about, and open to, how payment is received. It's no good holding the accounts and refusing deposits.


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4 comments:

  1. I thought you might enjoy this link..
    http://www.scientificamerican.com/article.cfm?id=the-neurobiology-of-bliss-sacred-and-profane

    "Absence of pain is predictably akin to pleasure, but the other two—losing a sense of identity and of bodily limits—are less obvious. Self-awareness, apparently, is no picnic. William James described the self as that kernel of consciousness that persists throughout various experiences and sensations. The self is divided between the stream of consciousness and an internal observer—except in those rare moments when we dissolve into mysticism.

    Self-awareness exists as a running critique organizing conscious experience. Telling stories to ourselves (often about ourselves) is the cognitive default."

    The problem here seems to be...that orgasm offers a dissolution of the sense of self...which ...um..is good...but the risk lies in the two consciousness becoming over-merged...fused, even...which then becomes oppressive...so...yeah...the challenge lies in keeping the accounts balanced...which only works if both participants are assiduous in their accounting practices. :)

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  2. Weird. I got this comment in my gmail, but not on my blog and there's no sign of a "delete." See below.

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  3. *Orfeu*

    orfeu has left a new comment on your post "Balanced Account":

    I thought you might enjoy this link..
    http://www.scientificamerican.com/article.cfm?id=the-neurobiology-of-bliss-sacred-and-profane

    "Absence of pain is predictably akin to pleasure, but the other two—losing a sense of identity and of bodily limits—are less obvious. Self-awareness, apparently, is no picnic. William James described the self as that kernel of consciousness that persists throughout various experiences and sensations. The self is divided between the stream of consciousness and an internal observer—except in those rare moments when we dissolve into mysticism.

    Self-awareness exists as a running critique organizing conscious experience. Telling stories to ourselves (often about ourselves) is the cognitive default."

    The problem here seems to be...that orgasm offers a dissolution of the sense of self...which ...um..is good...but the risk lies in the two consciousness becoming over-merged...fused, even...which then becomes oppressive...so...yeah...the challenge lies in keeping the accounts balanced...which only works if both participants are assiduous in their accounting practices. :)

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  4. Ahhh. I see.

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    Fixed.

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