Repost. LeeHere Absent, Feb 21, 2011 http://gotvirtual.net/community/threads/thats-what-she-said.772/page-9#post-25545
Yeah, it's not my thing either, but I tend to try (qualifying here) to attempt and experience everything at least once and orgasm control is a very real and very common practice. I meet a lot of men who want to pick up women in Second Life for that specific purpose. A lot.
It's another one of those things where purists will tell you orgasm control is best or only done within the framework of a long-term dynamic because you need to know the person whose orgasm you are controlling in order to affectionately and effectively play your partner like a virtuoso plays a Stradivarius. But it is also one of those things that has been adapted (bastardized?) for the drive-thru cybersex esthetic of the "Fuck Me Now" sims of virtual worlds.
Repost. LeeHere Absent, Feb 21, 2011 http://gotvirtual.net/community/threads/thats-what-she-said.772/page-9#post-25548
I meet enough men who are into either BDSM or orgasm control that those two are now on my informal mental top-ten expectation checklist. BDSM or orgasm control in the profile? I let them know that's not my cup of tea when they approach me. Request to go to voice or cam? I almost always check to see if it is for orgasm control before I agree and log into Skype.
Repost. LeeHere Absent, Feb 21, 2011 http://gotvirtual.net/community/threads/thats-what-she-said.772/page-9#post-25549
A male forum poster weighs in on orgasm control:
Don Mill: I enjoy orgasm control, it is one of those things that I enjoy when cybering with an stable partner. From a Dominant point of view, it is one of the few things that we can use to show the control that has been given to us by our partner. That said, it is not for everyone, the "skill" itself requires a lot of knowledge about your partner and the dynamic of the relationship. It also has a learning curve, you need to understand when it is possible and when it becomes a turn off.
The best way to play with it is thru voice since it allows you to hear the level of excitement in your partner and that is the main input one needs to control climax. There are several ways to "learn" to use it, the one I prefer is to request that my partner tells me when she is ready to orgasm and then ask her to count... that will create a pause before the orgasm. With time the need to count moves from the one approaching orgasm to the one controlling it. It should be noted that there is the possibility of a lot of frustration in between. But experience has showed me that most orgasm after being denied for a time are stronger than when they are not controlled.
YMMV, of course.
Repost. Bulldick!, Feb 22, 2011 http://gotvirtual.net/community/threads/thats-what-she-said.772/page-9#post-25974
I forgot to mention handheld mirrors as one of the props you might want to prepare yourself with if you want to play with people into orgasm control. Men into orgasm control will often ask you to look at your vagina in a handheld mirror.
So, ice, candles, matches, dildos, vibrators, feathers, handheld mirrors, tissues, towels, a beverage, perhaps a throat lozenge, headset, privacy...women need to be prepared too, ya know.
Reposted. LeeHere Absent, Feb 22, 2011 http://gotvirtual.net/community/threads/thats-what-she-said.772/page-10#post-25989