Monday, June 13, 2011


And another question...

Have you ever found someone sexy that you really normally would not have found sexy? Like the guy who repulses you who suddenly turns you on or the member of the sex opposite to the one you are usually attracted to is somehow very appealing or someone does something wonderful or interesting and for just that moment that person is turning you on?

I'll give some examples.

Niles Krane from the TV show "Frasier."

So not my type. And not at all appealing in a sexual way, though I did enjoy the character. I think I'd break the little guy if I was ever actually in a physical situation with him, but there was one episode where he got all fired up and took charge of Daphne in a very confident way and for a second there, I dug him. 

k.d. Lang.
I'm straight, but there is a kind of swaggering insouciance and intelligence there that I find appealing.

Sunday, June 12, 2011

Balanced Account

I think relationships are like accounts. There have to be both debits and credits and the accounts must be kept balanced. If you pay out all the time, you will eventually go bankrupt. It is your responsibility to balance the accounts. Sometimes you have to ask for a pay in and sometimes you have to be flexible about, and open to, how payment is received. It's no good holding the accounts and refusing deposits.


Saturday, June 11, 2011

The Woman Prefers Men

I like MEN, not pretty boys. Even back in the 80s, I was all about Harrison Ford, not Rob Lowe. And now..., yes, Clive Owen, not Orlando Bloom. I like rough chins, hairy arms, big metal watches, broad shoulders, a little wear and tear, scars, wrinkles around the eyes and a twinkle in the eye (Dennis Quaid), deep voices, nerves of steel, balls of brass, an unerring internal compass and that previously mentioned confidence.

The men of Tombstone come to mind.

Mmmm...Sam Elliott, Kurt Russell, Bill Paxton, and yes, Val Kilmer - in one of his best roles.

Josephine Marcus (Dana Delany): Interesting little scene. I wonder who that tall drink of water is.

Mr. Fabian (Billy Zane): My dear, you have set your gaze upon the quintessential frontier type. Note the lean silhouette, eyes closed by the sun; they're sharp as a hawk. He's got the look of both predator... and prey.

Josephine Marcus (Dana Delany): I want one.

And how hot is the scene in Bull Durham where Kevin Costner so easily unsnaps Susan Sarandon's garter after the young Tim Robbins had struggled with it earlier?

The scene in Out of Sight where George Clooney approaches Jennifer Lopez in the hotel bar?

The way some men get drunk on the very things that make a woman so distinctly a woman, so I drink in the things that make a man so distinctly a man.


I'm often struck by my own reaction to non-traditionally attractive men who are confident, which is so normal among women, yet so misunderstood by the man who would buy a "penis rack."

Did you see Find Me Guilty with Vin Diesel and Peter Dinklage? Peter Dinklage is 4'5" (1.35 m).  I found him sooooo appealing in that movie. He was so confident, capable, smart, rational, grounded, manly, caring and compassionate. I was drawn to him in a very real way that no rack would ever affect.


Another weird one in the odd appeal category.

Gust Avrakotos as played by Philip Seymour Hoffman in "Charlie Wilson's War."

Smart as hell, funny, passionate, interesting stories, basically good and a very naughty boy. Kudos to the actor who played him. Wink 


I love the scene in Alien where Tom Skerritt attempts to shield Sigourney Weaver from the alien.

Ed Harris. When he fights to bring back Mary Elizabeth Mastrantonio in The Abyss. Forget scifi. That movie was a LOVE story.

Another movie that makes women my age swoon...


I'm just thinking about actors with the necessary gravitas to model that kind of swoon-inducing confidence.

Gene Hackman
Tommy Lee Jones
Morgan Freeman
Denzel Washington
Anthony Hopkins
Laurence Fishburne
Delroy Lindo
Robert DeNiro
Ving Rhames
Harrison Ford
Alec Baldwin
Sean Connery 
Russell Crowe 
Clint Eastwood
Michael Biehn
Michael Ironside
Andy Garcia
Mel Gibson
Jesse Ventura
Tom Skerritt
Liam Neeson
Josh Brolin
Ray Winstone
Brendan Gleeson
Oliver Platt
Chris Cooper
Sam Shepherd
Tom Selleck
Chris Noth
George Clooney
Ed Harris
Jason Statham


And that's another thing men often worry about unnecessarily. Hair.

Bald can be beautiful.

Wednesday, June 8, 2011


Are you semihappy or a workhorse wife? Five different kinds of modern marriage
From 'Avatar Affairs' to 'Ed McMahon Syndrome', author Pamela Haag reveals the unromantic reality behind so-called wedded bliss...
By TAMARA ABRAHAM I 6:15 PM on 6th June 2011 I



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Has equality destroyed your sex life?
A controversial book claims feminism and the rise of ‘new men’ have killed off women's libidos...
LINDA KELSEY I 6th June 2011 I


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Your Brain on Porn & Sex

Your Brain on Sex


Your Brain on Porn

Don't Distract Me

My libido and limbic system are delicately wired. I wish it were not so, but there it is. It does not pay to distract me from the task at hand...or mouth.


For 65-plus set and boomers back in dating game, tips for meeting people online

For 65-plus set and boomers back in dating game, tips for meeting people online
Leanne Italie I June 1, 2011 I The Associated Press

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If sex and power are what women want, don't stop them

If sex and power are what women want, don't stop them
Laurie Penny I Thursday, 2 June 2011 I

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All Thumbs

Speaking of thumbs. In real life, gentlemen...manicures. I know, I know. It doesn't have to be some major all-out metrosexual spa day or anything. Scissors and an emery board may well cover it. It's just that those crispy bits around your nails are brutal on soft inner flesh. No unintentional pokes please. Thank you.

Okay, I just saw this...
...and while I clearly appreciate the sentiment behind the desire to have a smooth hand on approach...I gotta tellya...many women are gonna be a little creeped out if you come at them with latex gloves.

A Rose By Any Other Name

Probably great products. Recommended by doctors. Might enjoy trying them out. Just... can't... get past... the names.

Emotional Bliss



I freakin' love that they come with optional car chargers though. lol

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Although I could see where someone might see the charger and get confused.

Good thing there are videos. Some with...interesting hair.

I'm more used to seeing Alan Titchmarsh in gardens than "bushes."

Ancient Dildos & Art


Édouard-Henri Avril's lithograph from De Figuris Veneris (1906) of two women using a strap-on dildo. De Figuris Veneris, an anthology of ancient Greek and Roman writings on erotic topics, included a list of 95 sexual positions. You can get some interesting returns if you plug "De Figuris Veneris" into a Google Image search. I did not expect to find, however, that De Figuris Veneris has its own Facebook page, though I suppose I should not be surprised.

The dildo believed to be the oldest one known to man is estimated at 28,000 year old. Dildos used to be made of stone, wood and tar. :eek: Now we've got silicone rubber and Cyberskin. We've come a long way, baby.

Interesting soundtrack choice for that video.

I came across that while thinking about Wasted's cockbelts. ;)

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